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Beverly and Chris: A Study in Betrayal
Beverly and Chris were married for 7 years. Chris was a recovering alcoholic and drug addict
who had been clean and sober for several years before he met Beverly. Beverly was a
successful professional and Chris was a hard-worker in a blue collar job. After several
years, Beverly suggested that the couple start a business of their own. They decided
to invest in rental properties which they hoped would help grow their savings and
allow them to travel and enjoy life more. They got a second mortgage on their home
and bought several fixer-uppers in the same town where Chris worked. Things did not
go as smoothly as expected, but they kept working on it and trying to deal with
the stresses of a new business together.
After about a year, Beverly came home to find Chris crying and upset. She asked him what was wrong and he said he had to move out and "see what he wanted in life". Beverly was caught totally off guard and was devastated, but had no choice but to let him go. He left immediately and, in a week, came back to pack up his personal belongings. He told Bev he was staying with friends. In the meantime, Bev worked the busines on her own. About a month after Chris left, Beverly received a call from the bank that her business account was overdrawn. After meeting with the bank, she discovered that Chris had been funneling money out of their business account for some months before he left. When Beverly finally reached him, he minimized the theft, but said that he would reimburse the account. A couple of weeks later, Bev found out from friends that Chris was seeing another woman, someone he had mentioned as a new acquaintance at work. After two small checks, Chris stopped paying Beverly back.
RESULTS OF THE ONLINE POLL: 100 PERCENT SAID "NO" THIS RELATIONSHIP CANNOT BE SAVED.
I definitely agree with the poll results on this one. There is not much hope for this relationship.
Chris has a history of addictive behavior
in the past. While he had been clean and sober for some time before he married Bev, he
is almost always a bit more fragile to reacting to stress with a relapse.
Obviously, Chris had been secretive about his feelings for some time. By the time he
decided to talk to Bev about it, he was ready to leave. Not talking is definitely a red flag
for relapse for an alcoholic.