Sex-in-Relationships: It's a Good Thing
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SEX: IT'S A GOOD THING
Sexuality is a life-long journey. It's a very
important part of being human, and can be enjoyed from birth through old age.
Sex is a part of our development and can give us pleasure even as babies.
Sex can be a passionate and sharing commitment, it can be a way to pleasure ourselves, and it is a vital, exciting part of life!
It is important to affirm the sexual part of ourselves in order to reach our full
potential as a person.
SOCIETY AND SEX
and can limit our view of healthy sexuality. For example, since the so-called
"sexual revolution" of the 60's, sex for women is now seen as more than a way
to become a mother and to create a family. This is a good thing because sexual interaction with sexual
pleasure as a goal is now a positive expectation for both men and women. Orgasm is now
talked about as a satisfying goal for both sexes. Beginning
with the work of
Alfred Kinsey in the 50's, human sexuality has become the topic for many articles and books and
has been legitimized in the professional literature, taught in universities and medical schools,
and is the focus for a new discipline, sex therapy.
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In sex therapy, sexual problems are discussed openly and treatment is provided.
Sexual issues have their place in the professional literature as well as in the mainstream
media. Documentaries that address serious aspects of sexuality can be viewed on
public television. Today,it's clear that healthy sexual functioning
is an important dimension of marriage and other intimate relationships.
Parents, physicians, therapists, and others are now capable of addressing sexuality questions.
Sex education has been taught in the schools as well as in the home. While there has been some
debate regarding where children should learn about sex, there is no longer an argument
about if they should be taught. Sex education is valued as an important part of raising
How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex
GENDER IDENTITY AND ALTERNATIVE LIFESTYLES
Another major breakthrough in awareness has been the recognition that biological sex, gender
identity and sexual orientation are three separate components of one's sexual makeup.
this awareness, further study has been done on gender dysphoria (transsexual/transgender individuals),and sexual orientation, that is, heterosexuality,bisexuality, and homosexuality. Today, the
influence of the gay/lesbian/bi/transexual movement continues to promote the
acceptance of alternative ways of expressing one's sexuality. On the psychological front,
homosexuality has not been seen as a psychological disorder for a long time.
diagnostic catagory,Gender Identity Disorder refers to the difficulty one might have in
identifying one's gender identity. Societal influences, however, still prevail in creating
emotional distress for individuals who fall outside of the socially acceptable norm.
Transgendered or Transsexuals, most especially, internalize cultural hatred and fear.
And out in the world, transgendered men and women are by far the largest group targeted for hate crimes in this country.
Unlike gays and bisexuals who differ in their sexual orientation, transsexuals have
difficulty with their gender designation. This has often been described as "a man or woman
trapped in the wrong body." Transgendered individuals wish to have a body that matches their
gender, and many times their goal is to have sex reassignment surgery to make this happen.
Transsexuals often find support from the Gay and Lesbian Community because of their acceptance of individuals who are
"different" than the norm.
Even though about 10-20% of the population is gay, because of
homophobia it is taking a long time for Gays and Lesbians, Bisexuals and
Transgendered to reach equality in our culture. The intolerance of difference (manifested in racism, sexism, ageism, and other "isms")contributes
significantly to psychological issues because of internalized homophobia, and also because of anxiety and fear on the part
of those who are "different".
Certainly, it is imperative that those in the helping professions
educate themseves so that they can become GLBTG supportive in their work.
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Unfortunately, sex is also used as a weapon in our society. Violent crimes like rape, sexual abuse,
and certain pornography which degrades women, are acts of aggression and power. This is not
sex, but violence. The uncovering of rampant sexual abuse against our children truly has been a
blessing and a shame; a blessing because abused children are now getting help, and a shame because
we live in a society which conceals and, at some level, condones sexual abuse.
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